We all understand that self-care is important. We have to brush our teeth, eat
healthy foods, exercise, etc. in order to live a healthy life and take care of our
But what the heck is self-love? It sounds selfish! Does it mean that’s it’s all about me? I don’t think that I can put myself first—it isn’t right!
Yup! Those are common questions and responses.
I wasn’t quite sure what self-love meant either until experiencing a “bout of the blues” after having major knee surgery. This led me to an incredible woman (a counselor) whose teachings gave me a whole new perspective! I’m not an expert on the topic—in fact I’m still learning but here’s what I’ve discovered so far.
If you believe in a higher power, whether it’s God, Mother Earth—or the “One who is known by a thousand different names” this is what I’ve come to realize. By loving yourself—you are honoring your higher power. You are recognizing how much your creator loves you and wants the very best for you. Not just your basic self-care but for you to see the gift that you have been given--- which is you! You are unique, one of a kind.
How do you treat a newborn? You hold it gently, take care of it, feed it, and nurture it. And most importantly, you give it love—not only survive but to thrive. This is how self-love can be for you as an adult.
Treat yourself as you would a newborn? Just the concept alone is powerful! What are some ways we can do this? Think of how you interact with your friends. You get a phone call and they need your support. You stop what you’re doing, listen without judgment, offer ideas if asked, and give them unconditional love and encouragement.
Now for the big question—do you do the same to yourself? If not, how can you start?
Here’s a few tools to help on your journey:
Start here and discover how you can fulfill the equation SELF-CARE + SELF- LOVE = INNER HAPPINESS =? The “?” mark is for you to answer! When you operate from an inner state of happiness you are raising your positive energy and making progress towards achieving your goals—your dreams!